Anger is a very important emotion and part of our make-up which warns us of unsafe situations and helps us to react effectively. Whereas the emotion of anger is necessary, it is important that the anger does not control your life, and controlling anger is something which some people find extremely difficult. You must learn to control your anger, as many otherwise happy relationships have been destroyed by one partner’s inability to control their temper, and eventually the concept of living with someone who has anger management problems becomes less and less desirable for the other partner who eventually and inevitably leaves.
In finding suitable ways of controlling anger, it is useful to find alternative ways to express emotions and gain a new perspective. If you look back over what has made you angry in the past, you will probably realise that in most of the occasions where you allowed your temper to flare up, it actually made the situation much worse in the long run, rather than better. This is an important realisation in learning to control your temper. Whenever you find yourself in this type of situation in the future, don’t just lash out but try to remove yourself from the situation, step back, calm down and think rationally about the consequences of your actions.
If you find that during the day anger wells up inside of you, it is a good idea to use exercise as a suitable medium to rid yourself of the frustration and anger. You may find that by spending some time at the gym, pumping iron, or by hitting a punch bag, your anger can be reduced and you will feel fitter and more relaxed and ready to face the world. This is a very effective way of controlling anger, particularly if you are prone to aggression and violence.