The Issue of Adult Self Esteem

Often the issue of self esteem is discussed within the context of a teenager or a child.  However, the fact remains that issues of self esteem can permeate well into adulthood as well.

The main difference is that children and teenager’s are often cut a little slack for their poor self esteem and its resultant problems.  On the other hand with adults that forgiveness is not always as forthcoming because they should “know better”.

How can they know better if they were never taught those skills in the first place?  Adults may not have had role modelled to them a healthy example of self esteem from their parents simply because they weren’t in any position to give it, but it’s never too late.  As adults there are many places and resources you can tap into to learn healthy self esteem habits, at any age.  Search online, visit your local library or bookstore or even consider counselling to talk about it.

Adult self esteem issues often revolve around the individual seeking to overcompensate for his/her perceived failings. They become obsessed with the notion people will look down on them unless they achieve or excel.  Drive and motivation are good things because they prompt us to stretch beyond our capabilities, however there are times when this is in excess and too much of a good thing isn’t all good.

For example, low adult self esteem issues can lead someone to swing to the extreme and become a workaholic.  This way, the individual can draw a sense of accomplishment through the time invested in work. Such an approach may work to some degree but what is sacrificed in the process? At what price does this come?  Time with family and friends, lost opportunities to strengthen and fortify bonds and create memories.  Memories that never happened because of absence and life, sadly moves on without them.

Another symptom of adult self esteem issues is overcompensating by becoming argumentative, narcissistic or developing the “know it all” attitude which is self destructive costing them precious relationships, because after all, who wants to be around someone like that?

There are ways adults can rebuild their self esteem and they can kick start it with something as basic as making a list of the things that are positive in their lives, although at first this may seem challenging and they might require the assistance of a friend to help them compile their list.  Write down what you have achieved in your life no matter how little the achievement was.  Make a list of your strong points and eliminate the weak aspects of your life.  Once you have done this you will begin to feel better about yourself.

However doing this exercise does not offer a long-term solution but will provide immediate relief.  When it comes to a long-term fix, a person needs to sit down and think about how they can change the way they view life, how they react to the people and situations around them.

Clear out the negative thinking patterns and replace them with constructive positive thoughts and each time you find yourself reverting back to negative habits, immediately disrupt the old train of thinking and fill it with something positive.

If you want a more detailed plan on how to increase your own self esteem then grab your free report now and find out more.

About Budgeting

There’s an old adage in finance world: “You have to have good defense or offense – save more or bring in more.”

There are a lot of ways to lay aside income and it could go a long way toward helping your budget. A personal budget is a financial plan which sets boundaries on the sum of money that will be spent on every category of expenses in a given month. A great budget will take into consideration such factors like: the sum of income being obtained, outstanding debt to be retired, retirement savings, and an emergency fund.

Many individuals have no idea precisely where or how they spend a great portion of their cash. How many times have you taken cash from the ATM only to realize a few days later that it’s gone? A lot of times it is hard to remember how precisely you spent the cash, and frequently this cash is wasted on frivolous purchases. A budget will help prevent this from occurring by making a individual accountable for the cash that they spend.

Here are a few ways to cut down spending.

Reduce coffee drinks. If you put into savings 4 dollars a day you’d have spent on a latte at Starbucks, the cash would grow in 30 years at five percent interest to $100,000. If you do simply have to have something to drink, buy a bottle of juice: It’s better for you and less expensive.

Pack your lunch rather than eating out. Spending 5 to 10 bucks a day going out to lunch will rapidly add up to a heap of cash.

If you buy anything ask yourself 3 times “do I really need to have this?” Chances are your quality of life would be better without it or at any rate the same.

Know the power of compounding interest. Basically, saving when you’re in your youth will put time on your side. When you’re ready to retire from working in twenty to thirty years, your cash will be earning some severe interest.

Make a point to live just below your means. You don’t have to be live like a pauper to save cash, just go one step below what you gave the sack get by with. Instead of a BMW, purchase a less expensive automobile. Rather than a 2 week vacation, go for a 10 day vacation. Lay aside the rest in the bank!

Vape Away Your Anxiety

If you’re like me, anxiety can cripple you. It can instantly transform you from an outgoing and eccentric mood, to a cold, brick wall. You can’t cure it. Regardless of what it’s stemming from, it’s always with you. No matter what prescription drugs I take, the number of trips to the gym I make, it’s a constant struggle. However, I, and millions of others, have found relief through the effects of CBD.

It’s 2019. We’ve all heard about the possible psychological benefits of cannabis. However, some people are forced into a position where they simply cannot use it. Marijuana is still illegal in many places, making it very difficult for people to obtain safely. Also, the process of getting approved for medical marijuana can be lengthy and burdensome.

Many people can’t even use marijuana as treatment because of the high, or the THC. For instance, people with criminal records or on probation, people subjected to drug testing, or people with sensitivities to THC. These groups of people are left looking for alternatives like cannabidiol (CBD) which is readily available pretty much everywhere.

For those unfamiliar, CBD is one of over 100 chemical compounds found in a cannabis plant. It is 100% natural and extracted as an oil. It does not contain THC, the compound from cannabis that gets you high. It simply works to instill a sense of calmness and relaxation in the user.

While there are many different methods of ingesting CBD, such as sublingual oils or sprays or infused candies, my personal favorite is an additive solution that I add to my vape juice. Over the past couple of years more CBD additive products have been popping up everywhere with different strengths and flavors.

Before I started adding CBD to my vape, I used my device sparingly, usually in a social setting with alcohol. It had almost zero impact on me besides satisfying my oral fixation for smoking something. However, now I use it medicinally on a daily basis, and yes, it helps me quite a bit. After 10 minutes and a few puffs of my vape device, I can physically feel my body loosen up and my mind stop racing.

The market for CBD products has become very saturated recently, and It’s important to do a little research and use a trusted company that regularly tests their product for purity. When I walked into my local smoke shop, there were almost a dozen brands selling CBD products, many of which I had never heard of. Companies such as Koi, Hemp Bombs, and CBDfx are distributed nationally and are wildly popular. Lesser known brands and local companies can be cheaper, but I suggest to stick to the name brands and spend the few extra dollars to be sure of what you’re getting.

It’s important to remember that CBD or marijuana is not a cure or a fix for dealing with psychological issues such as anxiety. It affects everyone differently, and some may not find relief as much as others. It is however a natural, legal, and fairly inexpensive alternative to anti-anxiety medication that you should probably give a shot. (If you don’t vape, try out some delicious CBD gummy worms!)

 

Got Anger?

Do you have a difficult time addressing your anger issue and you can’t discover ways to eliminate it? Can’t get a grasp on it? The net is decidedly crammed with articles about ideas on dealing with anger issues. These ideas may be simple but very valuable for each and everyone having issues with anger. This is really crucial to have a quality life that you want. These are some easy yet effective ways on dealing with anger issues. It will sure as shooting help you a lot!

 

It’s forever prudent to excuse yourself from any tiff or fall out from somebody or something. Avoid unfriendly areas where arguing is just about to occur. If you believe you’re about to get really angry, leave the region and discover ways to help you lessen the furious feelings. If you don’t step back from unfriendly places you’re more likely to get disturbed. Take a break awhile to cool off and be reminded that anger is risky for your health. It will likewise give you a time to consider some constructive action toward angriness.

 

Workoutork out is one significant drill you are able to do to transfer your anger. Why not walk or jog rather than wallowing in anger. It’s healthier than getting huffy. Exercise isn’t just good for you and for your body; some type exercise is one way for you to release the strain, aggravators and pressure in a constructive manner. Exercise will take only a few minutes to settle the damaging vibes you have which may touch off your anger.

 

If anger is approaching just inhale and exhale slowly to chill out. Do this till anger is eased. When doing this center your attention on some important issue or things that make you smile. How about calling up a comical moment that you saw or listen to music and at the same time inhale and exhale. This is much better than calling up matters that spark your anger.

 

These are just few easy ideas you are able to consider in dealing with your anger issues. It doesn’t matter what ideas you really utilize, what’s crucial is you successfully discharge your anger. If you can’t settle your emotions, your mind is also not calming down. Most of the time what we feel is likewise what we think of, so don’t think angry things rather consider something positive. It feels so great if you’re unhampered by anger, so open your eyes and stay away from any negative vibes that anger may convey then live life to the fullest. Laugh and be pleased having anger-free living!

 

 

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Manage Conflict: The Six Skills

Today on the Gottman Relationship Blog, we continue the discussion of Manage Conflict by introducing Dr. Gottman’s six skills of conflict management. Many of us connect all too well with comedian Mitch Hedberg’s feelings when he quips, “I got in an argument with a girlfriend inside of a tent. That’s a bad place for an argument, because I tried to walk out, and had to slam the flap!”

While his commentary on the frustrations all couples feel in the face of conflict may hit close to home, or deeply amuse us, we know that problems in real relationships are rarely solved through stand-up comedy. In the interest of finding more constructive solutions, we would like to direct you to a different quote, that lovely old adage: Love is saying “I feel differently” instead of “you’re wrong.”

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Managing vs. Resolving Conflict in Relationships: The Blueprints for Success

In The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, Dr. John Gottman’s research proves that 69% of problems in a relationship are unsolvable. These may be things like personality traits your partner has that rub you the wrong way, or long-standing issues around spending and saving money. Their research findings emphasize the idea that couples must learn to manage conflict rather than avoid or attempt to eliminate it.

Trying to solve unsolvable problems is counterproductive, and no couple will ever completely eliminate them. However, discussing them is constructive and provides a positive opportunity for understanding and growth. Let’s look at three “conflict blueprints” to help you and your partner constructively manage conflict around unsolvable problems.

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5 Steps to Fight Better if Your Relationship is Worth Fighting For

Conflict is inevitable in every relationship. Psychologist Dan Wile says it best in his book After the Honeymoon: “When choosing a long-term partner, you will inevitably be choosing a particular set of unresolvable problems.” However, Dr. Gottman has found that nearly 1/3 of all conflicts can be resolved with the right approach.

The popular approach to conflict resolution, advocated by many marriage therapists, is to put yourself in your partner’s shoes, listen to what they say, and communicate with empathy that you understand their perspective. It’s a decent method if you can do it.

But most couples can’t. Even happily married couples. After studying couples for the last 40 years, Dr. John Gottman has recognized that even happy couples do not follow the experts’ rules of communication.

By studying what these couples did, Dr. Gottman developed a new model for solving your solvable problems in an intimate relationship.

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