Three Steps to Anger Control

We all feel angry at some time in our lives, and anger is a very necessary emotion but it is important to keep control of anger, and not let it take control over us. When we become angry we often behave irrationally and this can be extremely damaging for us and those around us. control is therefore very important and there are four easy steps which you can use to help you.

The first step for anger control is to stop, take a deep breath and count to ten. You’ve probably been told that lots of times in your life, maybe as you were growing up, and not really thought about it as anger management, but it is one of the most effective and simple methods of anger control and it really works. By breathing deeply from the diaphragm you are already practicing a well known relaxation technique, and by counting to ten you are distancing yourself and your immediate reaction, and giving yourself time to calm down and think more rationally about the situation.

The second step is to do something physical, go for a walk, hit a punch bag or do some vigorous dancing, anything to use up your pent up frustration and leave you feeling more relaxed.  Last but not least in your quest for anger control, try to remember to change your sentences to ‘I’ statements instead of ‘you’ statements. Instead of accusing people with ‘you didn’t do this’ say something like ‘I was upset because I wanted some help’.  This will hopefully start up a conversation and communication is important in order to stop misunderstandings and for everyone to know just what is upsetting and why the anger is there in the first place. By using these simple steps you can make your life and the life of the people around you much more harmonious.

 

 

 

The Benefits of Being a Life Coach

Life coaching is a profession that is different from consulting, mentoring or counseling. The process of coaching addresses issues such as business, personal projects, relationships and the client’s personal growth. So what are the benefits of becoming a life coach?

There are many benefits of becoming a life coach. Firstly, it a rewarding and fulfilling career choice. They have the opportunity to help people get the most out of their life. They are working with positive people who are eager to learn and achieve. You don’t have to struggle to try and change that person’s mindset. That person wasn’t sent to you. When you are a life coach, people come seeking you to help them. This means the battle is already half won because they are willing to change and they are willing to pay you to help them change.

Secondly, being a life coach also accelerates your personal and professional development. When you are a life coach, you are expected to be at a certain level of personal and professional ranking already. You are the expert and that is why people are seeking you out. When you start coaching others on how to develop themselves personally and professionally, you are accelerating your own pace because you are learning from your clients too at the same time.

Thirdly, being a life coach gives you mobility. You have the freedom to live and work anywhere you wish. You can coach from your home, from an office or while travelling. It can be done through telephone or you can even do it through email!

Fourthly, your coaching business can bring in big money for you. You can earn on an average $120 an hour in coaching fees. It ranges from $100-$300. At the same time you can also earn while you learn. Most coaches who start coaching within 6 months of entering a training program are also earning fees shortly after. It is important for you to practice what you learn and learn from what you are practicing.

Lastly, coaching is how you can make a difference in the lives of others. You are helping others to improve their lives and achieve their dreams. Furthermore, by the end of the day, you will feel great joy because you are able to help someone.

In conclusion, there are many benefits to being a life coach. The most important benefit of all is that not only you derive joy from coaching but you yourself are able to grow too. So what are you waiting for? Be a life coach today.

 

How to Support Someone with Bulimia

Oftentimes a person with an eating disorder is too embarrassed to seek help. Other times, they may deny that they have a problem. So if you noticed a friend who may bulimic, here are some ways you could approach your friends to help them

  1. Educate yourself. You need to educate yourself on what bulimia is really about. Learn what kind of eating disorder is it. How does it come about? Why does it happen? What are the signs and symptoms of bulimia? What could you do to help them? Educate yourself first before trying to help another.
  2. Sit the person down and have a talk with them. Listen with understanding. Do not be judgmental. Tell them all you have learned about bulimia. Tell them you are being concerned about their health, their eating habits. Do not attack them. Attacking them would make them go on the defense and you would never be able to proceed from there on.
  3. Give your support. Tell that them you are there to give them support. You could always be available for them. Tell them that if they do not want to discuss the matter, it’s okay but you are always willing to help them should they change their mind. You could accompany them to a counselor or a physician to get themselves checked.
  4. You could also find a social group for your friend with other sufferers of bulimia. Together they would be able to help each other through it. These social groups will create a safe environment for your friend to feel comfortable in.
  5. Lastly, be kind and understanding. Know your limits. You can’t give them the professional help they need. Just be prepared to give them the moral support they need. Fighting bulimia may be a lifelong battle and they need all the help they can get. So be there for them!

 

Baby Steps to Sober Living

Society seems to think that kicking an addiction is easy, what more an alcoholic addiction. The easy part may be getting sober. However, the most difficult part is the one that comes after that, staying sober. So here are five little basic ideas to get you through the day.

  1. Positive activities. Say it has been your childhood dream to be an underwater explorer. Now here is your chance. Enrol in a class, get your license. Find friends who love diving and start a new experience together. Love cooking? Take classes. Choose activities or the things that you love that will increase your self-esteem and self confidence. This will increase your chances of staying sober.
  2. Trying new things. Just as taking a diving license, now is the time to discover that other side of you. Who says you will truly know yourself by the time you are an adult. Continuously try new things, visit new places. Take a holiday. With that new diving license, start diving at the beautiful islands of the world. By getting interested in new experiences, you are taking your mind off your addiction and staying sober will be just a piece of cake.
  3. Always be wary. Pay attention to little triggers that might set you off on a drinking spree again. Stressful triggers like deaths, anniversaries may depress you, and that is when the urge would kick in. Write down a list of these triggers and also list downs what you could do when you are faced with such triggers. One such example is you could go for AA meetings when at that time of the year.
  4. Make resolutions. Sit down and list down a list of things that you have always meant to achieve and give yourself a timeline for it. Before the age of 30, I would like to have a good job; I would like to visit the majestic Taj Mahal. Anything. But most importantly, work towards your goals.
  5. Lastly, do not give up. Yes if you relapse once, it is a mistake. However, do go easy on yourself. If you fall down, pick yourself up and try again. At the end of it all, you know it will be worth it.

How to Identify and Provide Safe Food for Bulimics

Contrary to popular belief, bulimia does not only affect young teenage girls. Bulimia also affects adult women and young teenage boys and adult men too. Overcoming this eating disorder may take months or even years depending on the individual. One of the ways that could help a bulimic patient overcome this eating disorder is to identify safe food that they could eat on a regular basis. These foods will be non-guilty food and will also provide all the nutrition that they need.

First, ask the bulimic patient to keep a diary of food they have eaten for at least a week. The diary should be very detailed and includes everything that was consumed and the emotions that they experienced with the different food. They have to write too if they had purged after eating that food. Remind them to write in their journal immediately right after eating or purging.

Then review the diary together with the patient. Work out which food causes negative associations and which food has a positive experience.  List all the negative food under a page entitled foods to avoid. Write down all the food that patients purged on that page too. Then list down all the positive emotion food under a list entitled safe food. Work out which food that the patient has ate but did not purge and add it under that list. The safe food list should also contain fruits and vegetables the patients will enjoy.

Next, together with the patient, create a weekly eating plan made of safe food. The plan should include each meal for each day and any snacks. Work out a grocery list with instructions to purchase the right amount of safe food for each meal. Remember to limit the number of days of food that they are allowed to purchase. This will prevent them from going on a bingeing spree. You could also work out recipes that are easy to follow and fast to prepare for the convenience of the patient.

In conclusion, with this food journal, the bulimic patient will now be able to eat healthily without feeling guilty. It is a never ending process but tell them to be patient and never give in to their cravings. Be there for them!

Life Coaching: The pros they have to offer

Many people do not know what a life coach can do for them. The job of a life coach is to basically help you identify goals and to motivate you to achieve those goals. So here are the few benefits of having a life coach.

In your present mind frame, it is difficult for you to manifest success in your life because you have no idea what is your personal goal or the personal success you want to achieve. A life coach is able to help you to point out what is important to you and once they have pointed out your priorities, they can help you work out and set up a goal for you to achieve.

Secondly, a life coach is also there to lend some clarity to the issue that you are going through.  When you are grappling with an issue, it is easy to not be able to see the solution as clearly as others because you have been blinded for so long. By talking it out with a life coach, they will be able to give an objective and truthful observation about your issue and also shed some light on the problem that you are having. Furthermore, they would also be able to come up with ideas that you have never thought about.

Thirdly, a life coach is there to help you to put your plan into action. Once you are done with setting your goal and setting a course of action, they help you to make decisions much more quickly and reduce costly delays and thus providing better quality action.

Fourthly, when you have a life coach, you are therefore accountable towards them. They will ask you each week of your progress and will hold you accountable to your action. If you are unable to put your plan into action, they will be able to motivate you towards your goals and to stick to your action plan.

Lastly, a life coach is there to give you support. They will listen to what you have to say without judging or criticizing. They will also give you their support during the toughest times and they will also be there to celebrate your successes.

So to sum it all up, getting awill be the next best step towards trying to improve your life and trying to achieve your dreams. So what are you waiting for? Seek out a life coach today.

 

 

 

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Alcohol Addiction: Debunking the Myth

Many people have their beliefs about alcohol addiction. However, most of these beliefs stem from a lack of experience, understanding and perhaps tolerance.  So let us correct some of these common misconceptions.

Myth 1: Addiction is only a bad habit and the only reason addicts can’t quit is because they have no willpower.

At the start of drinking, perhaps it could be a voluntary decision. Consider it a much needed respite from work, bills, relationship and all the drama. However, the more they choose to turn to it, the more dependent they become on it to relieve stress and in the end, they become addicted. This addiction happens because alcohol alters the brains and now the alcohol is in control of the addict.

Myth 2: Addicts are people with mental problems.

The statement is untrue. Addicts began as normal people who only started on one or two drinks to relieve stress. The more they seek this as an outlet, the more addicted they become. As we said in myth #1 alcohol alters the brain, creating a need in the user to be drinking all the time. This leads to bad life decisions.

Myth 3:  Treatment never works. Look at how many people relapse

The public thinks, that it will be easy to quit alcohol cold turkey however it is not that easy. The rehabilitation of alcoholics or treatment for them is not a one size fit all. The programme has to be tailored to suit the needs of the alcohol addicts. Different individuals have different issues that they are dealing with and they also respond differently to various treatment.

Myth 4: The addict has to be willing to quit for treatment to be effective.

Most of the time, they do not want treatment. They only seek treatment because they were ordered by the court or they were referred by concerned family members. Wanting to quit has little effect on the effectiveness on the treatment.

Myth 5: Addicts are a lost cause once they relapse.

Getting off the addiction is easy. Staying off it is difficult. Relapsing does not mean hitting rock bottom. It could be used as a positive thing by analyzing why the individual relapsed, what trigger that triggered the event and learn to avoid it next time. These are a few of the myths of alcohol addiction. The knowledge of this alone will help you be a better friend to those in need.

 

How to Control Anger for a Happier Life?

Anger is a very important emotion and part of our make-up which warns us of unsafe situations and helps us to react effectively. Whereas the emotion of anger is necessary, it is important that the anger does not control your life, and controlling anger is something which some people find extremely difficult. You must learn to control your anger, as many otherwise happy relationships have been destroyed by one partner’s inability to control their temper, and eventually the concept of living with someone who has anger management problems becomes less and less desirable for the other partner who eventually and inevitably leaves.

In finding suitable ways of controlling anger, it is useful to find alternative ways to express emotions and gain a new perspective. If you look back over what has made you angry in the past, you will probably realize that in most of the occasions where you allowed your temper to flare up, it actually made the situation much worse in the long run, rather than better. This is an important realization in learning to control your temper. Whenever you find yourself in this type of situation in the future, don’t just lash out but try to remove yourself from the situation, step back, calm down and think rationally about the consequences of your actions.

If you find that during the day anger wells up inside of you, it is a good idea to use exercise as a suitable medium to rid yourself of the frustration and anger. You may find that by spending some time at the gym, pumping iron, or by hitting a punch bag, your anger can be reduced and you will feel fitter and more relaxed and ready to face the world. This is a very effective way of controlling anger, particularly if you are prone to aggression and violence.

 

How to Cope with Bulimia

Bulimia is a life threatening disorder that slowly kills your body. Bulimic individuals will usually consume large amount of food in a short period of time. Then feeling guilty, they would they try to compensate by purging the food out of the body by any means necessary. So if you are a bulimic, you need to stop this right now. Bulimia can result from many things such as depression, anger, low self esteem and other emotional issues. Here are some ways you could learn to cope as a bulimic.

  1. Educate yourself what bulimia is really about. How the disorder does comes about. You also need to understand what bulimia could do to your body. One bad consequence you could learn of bulimia is that the acid from your stomach will rot your teeth. This will result in yellow or jagged teeth. Understand that bulimia has serious consequences such as malnutrition. It could also lead to suicide. Furthermore, purging all the time also causes a serious imbalance in your body and you are putting health in jeopardy.
  2. Confide in a friend. Tell someone that you can trust about your problem. Ask for their support and ask them to assist you. It must be someone you are able to trust like a teacher, family or a school counselor. They will be more than willing to give you all the support and encouragement that you need.
  3. Get professional help. You could always seek advice from recovery centers and a physician. You may need both medical intervention and counseling to get you through this.
  4. Learn how to eat properly. You could always seek a nutritionist for advice. Learn how to eat properly. Understand your food issues and how to deal with it.

Lastly, remember to be kind to yourself. You are worthwhile. Never let other people question your self worth. Be persistent and never give up and you will be able to beat this eating disorder.

How to Quit Drinking WITHOUT Full Abstinence

You may have a problem with drinking but may be too embarrassed to enter an AA meeting. Here a few simple steps to help you kick the habit without going full turkey.

Firstly, as cliché as it may sounds, acknowledge that you have a problem. You need to first accept that you are an alcoholic. Then we can proceed to the next step. You need to understand why you drink. Do you start drinking when you had a bad day at work? You have an argument with your spouse? Identify the little triggers that set you off and have a game plan of what you will do when faced with that trigger. Be it, when having an awful day at work, going for a spa or a massage or calling a friend out for a coffee. Know your triggers and know yourself.

Secondly, commit yourself to the goal of ridding yourself free of alcohol. You are a smart human being who does not need alcohol to function. Yes, it may be difficult for you to get through the day at first. Do not listen to the little cravings or little commands that your brain sends to you demanding for alcohol. You are the master of yourself. You have lived once before and functioned perfectly well without alcohol. There is no reason you could not do it again. Make your mantra: I will quit for good. Repeat it to yourself every time a trigger presents itself to you.

Thirdly, learn to say NO. If a friend asks you out for a drink, be absolutely ready to be firm in your reply. Say no thanks, I’m quitting. Tell your friends of your intentions and tell them that you need them to be there for you. If you have to avoid your group of drinking friends for a certain period of time, do that. Tell them you are not burning bridges, you are just trying to quit alcohol. They will respect you for it and help you in your road to sobriety.

Fourthly, be patient. Enjoy your recovery from your addiction and do not be afraid if you relapsed. If you relapsed once, that does not mean you will fall all the way down and hit rock-bottom. It takes time and patience. Do not be hard on yourself if you relapsed after a certain period of time. After that relapse, say to yourself, I will try harder and this time I will succeed.

Most of all, remember that you are doing all these for yourself and your family. These should be the biggest motivation and inspiration of all to keep on moving forward.

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